Close your eyes and imagine you are 5 years old.
The excitement of going to school for the first time and making friends thrills you.
All you had to say was “wanna play with me?” And your classmates said “tag you’re it” and you were off! Playing a game of chase and instantly this person was your first best friend.
Flash forward to freshman year of high school.
You are starting over again but with similar stakes as before.
You sit next to someone in the assigned seating chart for math class, and say “Hi I’m Hannah.” Then you notice they are also in your English and drama classes so you become close.
College is the even more of a playing field for making friends!
Everyone has moved and knows almost no one so you can talk easily and have more friends to go to lunches or parties with.
Post-college and beyond is where things get tricky.
You may still have the close friends from college or high school (like myself) but they don’t live nearby.
You make a few friends at some jobs but once you aren’t working there – the friendships are harder to keep.
The pandemic caused friction between friendships because you were on a stricter lockdown than most.
You still have a few solid friends that cycle through each month, but how do you make more?
It feels strange to ask people to get together after work or on days off.
There is this awkwardness of thinking they probably have plans or a forced “dating” concept to break the first barriers of getting to know you.
It was so simple back when all you had to do was say “Wanna play horses?” And BAM, you had 7 kids giddying up and neighing with you at recess.